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Dating In Islam? 5 Points To Note

“Dating” as defined in Western culture does not exist in Islam. Interaction between Muslim men and women is reserved solely with marriage in mind. Muslims who are able to marry are encouraged to do so, and they must follow the established laws of courtship.

Misconceptions

Many non-Muslims believe that all Muslim marriages are arranged, but this is rarely the case. Friends and family may assist in arranging matches, but the final decision is left up to the couple.

Significance

Instead of dating, Muslim couples “court” with the intention of finding a suitable spouse. Unlike dating in Western culture, it is not done for recreational purposes. While courting, the man and woman are never left alone together. They are always accompanied by a chaperon to prevent the temptation of giving into lust. It states in the Qur’an, the Holy Book of Islam, “Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan is the third among them.” Therefore, whenever the couple spends time together, the visit is supervised.

Considerations

A Muslim man and woman approach the decision to find a marriage partner with much prayer, asking Allah to guide them in finding the right person. The family also becomes involved by discussing and suggesting candidates, and helping to narrow the prospects. The parents typically approach the other family once a suitable partner has been agreed upon. They continue to investigate the prospective match by inquiring of friends, families and coworkers about the character of the individual.

Time Frame

Muslim courtships are relatively short. Once the couple decides that they are a suitable match, they typically agree to get engaged. They may “go out” during their engagement, but only in groups. These short engagements are normal, so the couple can effectively avoid temptation.

Benefits

The divorce rate in Muslim countries is drastically lower than in Western countries. Muslims say this is evidence that their take on courtship is a better alternative to dating. The Muslim religion calls for purity, cleanliness and chastity in all aspects of life. Therefore, the strict behavioral rules are established to help a couple think clearly about a lifelong partnership without being distracted by lust.

Recently however, there are some evil messages spreading amongst the Ummah with young boys and girls engaging in relationships that are totally forbidden according to the Sharia. “Friends With Benefit” and “Free Birds” are totally un-Islamic.

May Allah (swt) guide us unto the right path and practice the Deen according to the teachings of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), Ameen.

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15 thoughts on “Dating In Islam? 5 Points To Note

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  4. Misleading article, most couples even after getting engaged dont go out together(in pakistan) secondly the even meeting of two potential spouses is rare in islamic countries. WHY do you try to fabricate our Norms , we should be proud of our norms even if the spouses are totally arranged why be ashamed to admit it?

  5. i’m a muslim,a nigerian bt yoruba. What u said is true and a reminder…bt unfortunately,i jst fall victim of d so-called non-islamic act ‘dating’ wallahi,i feel remorse,bt i dnt actually knw hw to be free frm it…needs ur ass.
    …masalam…

  6. AlhamduliLlah for this eye-opener and jazaakaLlah to d poster. aweva, i’m a bit confused. wat if i decide to get married immediately after school and i see someone i’d like to marry few years to dat time, can i keep casual friendship wit such a person while having marriage intention?

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